To Blog or Not To Blog

Six years ago while in the waiting for my career to sprout out of struggle, I wrote a blog.  At that time; I was dealing with internal  and external struggles that threatened my future. You know – the voices inside your head fueled by the visible failures. I had moved to the USA to take the medical board exams only to find out I was ineligible at the time. I felt very inadequate.

In dealing with that difficult time,  I wrote down words of encouragement to myself. Most of them were analogies from life stories in which I would look for a silver lining – you know – something to hold on to. Anything to redeem the situation. Some stories made it to the internet and others did not.

There were reservations in me writing online. I revealed partial truths hiding behind the fear of social judgment. I would ask myself questions like :- ” what if my really close friends read this? “, or  “what if my family members took offense to this” or “what if I am not a good enough person to share this with someone else?”. Once these thoughts rose up within me, knots would literally tie up in my belly, heartburn squeezed my chest and my under arms will drown in perspiration and then I would turn to write in my makeshift journal and only to place it on my nightstand. I have had a few of these journals over the years. 

We all ask questions when evaluating decisions about our lives, particularly how they affect others. These are valid because our lives are best lived when we are interdependent in love with family, friends and other meaningful relationships. But on the other hand, FEAR hinders the plans and purposes God has laid in our hearts. It may be a fear of failure, misjudgment, disapproval, or negativity. Sometimes we are even afraid of the inability to carry out purpose. 

Today, although I am fearless not completely free of fear, I have through God’s grace built the courage to withstand my fearful human nature. I now choose to publish these words of encouragement that have been deposited in my heart. Words that have taken me through diverse challenging circumstances. I choose to put them on the internet so that when I am older,  when I fall, or when my future children’s children need a word in season, we would all have a biblically based resource on the internet to lift us up.

Ps 94:19 In the multitude of my [anxious] thoughts within me, Your comforts cheer and delight my soul!


  1. Titanji helen
    06/16/2016 / 10:03 pm

    Well very very true ninots and indeed this is a very powerful and inspiring messeage..i feel at ease. Well u are yt to see the great thingz God has installed for you. This is just the beggining. Courage gurl courage…..

  2. Linda Ekosso
    06/16/2016 / 10:11 pm

    Ninots, this is wonderful. Great words of encouragement. You know, God allows us to go through some tough situations, and we ask God why He is allowing us in a situation for a “long” time. Tears flow. But the Lord is good. It is so that we can be inspirations, testimonies and probably role models to those who are going through the same situation. Thank you for this blog.

    • 06/17/2016 / 11:15 am

      Thank you for your feedback Linda. Tough times come but the Lord takes us through them all.

  3. Ms V
    06/17/2016 / 2:29 pm

    My own Ninalolos,you know i’m very proud of you for sharing your struggles and fears and most especially for being vulnerable…that’s real strength sisi! Thank you for using your pain for gain and for giving us a feel of what it took to get to where you are today and going. Thank you for blessing us and life will only get better for you in Jesus name! It is sooooo well with you. Plz say d baby!!!! Baby it’s who…

  4. karolikalemba
    06/18/2016 / 2:17 pm

    Great job! Courage, the ability to face one’s fears, may be the greatest virtue.

  5. ernymorphy
    11/15/2016 / 5:26 am

    Thanks for sharing, and courage n favour on ur way up

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